Men have problems too

focus on them, leave us alone

So while killing time on the toilet this morning, stalling and waiting for the vibe to have my bath so I could finally get ready for work, I stumbled on a tweet.

This tweet was of a lawyer and the Pro Bono cases he was taking. In this tweet he spoke about all the different men that have been failed by Nigeria. Most of them were wrongfully imprisoned and hadn’t spoken to anyone since they were jailed.

Three, four years by and their family didn’t even know they were in prison, probably thought they were dead.

It got me thinking (by this time, I had finally stopped deceiving myself and stood up to brush my teeth).

Why is it only men?'

Do they believe women can’t be armed robbers?

Why does no one talk about this?'

The third question was answered immediately by my brain while spitting out suds of toothpaste.

No one talks about it because men are too busy putting their noses in women’s business.

You know the way they always complain when International Women’s Day or Mother’s Day come around, that why isn’t there International Men’s Day or Father’s Day. We celebrate ourselves on our day, they get angry, complain a bit but their day rolls around and it’s silence as if they couldn’t celebrate themselves too.

It works the same way for everything.

Flo app, they put their mouth.

Women’s only gym, that two cents needed to be added.

(Okay Chineme get back on track, you’re shifting from your point)

We live in a patriarchal society where hating women is the norm. A man could kill his wife and no one would blink. The whole family looks away when that weird uncle is touching the underaged girls.

Women issues are rampant and need to be spoken about everyday, screamed from the rooftops even, but if we’re too busy defending ourselves, fighting for our rights, do you think we’ll have the energy to advocate for you too?

Especially when y’all are the cause of both our issues?

Y’all scream “Men’s mental health, men’s mental health” but y’all will laugh at another man’s crashout (case in point the memes from Tyrese Gibson’s crashout in 2017 and as of recent, the alleged poisoning of that guy and his friends).

This is what you should be focusing your energy on instead of wasting time hating on women.

Focus it on ending the police brutality against your gender. Focus it on the stereotyping and wrongful imprisonment. Focus it on YOUR mental health.

Leave us alone, we can’t fight both battles while you sit tight nagging.

(I let my emotions get the best of me, sorry. Actually no sorry. Deal with it)