i feel the need to comment again because i’m annoyed. why on earth is fulfillment so tied to becoming a parent? mind you not actually being a {good} parent because that’s a whole different thing but becoming one. why is your life “more fulfilling” than mine just because you didn’t use a condom? like my life is less valuable because i have a vasectomy or got my tubes tied? like bffr.
Like, I don't want kids, but what if I later regret the decision down the line?? What if I find out I do want kids and then it's just too late?
What if I have kids, and then realize I don't want kids, and end up hating the child for something that's entirely my fault (I've actually seen this happen) ??
i found this all weirdly relatable. i can’t speak from the perspective of a woman who has to deal with it but my thought processes and even the experiences have been quite similar. used to live by this abandoned lot with this family that lived in a makeshift cabin made with zinc and rotting wood. i looked at them from the upstairs balcony and question everything. the kids on road while we were on the way to school. the philanthropy dreams were strong with this one. i’m a bit more grown now and i kinda despise the fact that we have to defend our decision to not have kids with all sorts of perfectly logical things and the people who want them and maybe shouldn’t have them get to say: “ i want to keep it”. we have logical reasons and get dismissed but somehow it’s better that children are born to suffer instead. idk man that just seems fucked up to me. i think my goal in life is to be a great uncle. the greatest uncle that ever uncled is what’s going on my tombstone and if i ever have a kid(intentionally), i’m adopting one. the marriage one is maybe still up for contention but i’ve never fallen head over heels in love so idk. either ways this was a great read so thanks.
Women are really trying. You just go into these things with absolutely no idea. It's only now people are even speaking up about the bad sides of pregnancy and parenthood.
The way I could relate to this ehn?
There are so many questions, so many reasons I've formulated in my mind.
And the liking kids from afar?
Yep, that's totally me.
Like 'You're cute and all but can you like leave the hem of my dress? This is getting annoying' lol.
But, like you said, no one knows what tomorrow holds, so we'll see, I guess.
Like bro I can say all these and end up with a kid
But for now, omoooo, please don't use your catarrh and mucus hand to touch me abeg
i feel the need to comment again because i’m annoyed. why on earth is fulfillment so tied to becoming a parent? mind you not actually being a {good} parent because that’s a whole different thing but becoming one. why is your life “more fulfilling” than mine just because you didn’t use a condom? like my life is less valuable because i have a vasectomy or got my tubes tied? like bffr.
Why do I think you'd make such a lovely mom? 😂
Life has always been uncertain and this mom thing is one of its many uncertainties.
It's okay not to be sure if you want them or not. You're not alone.
But I think you'd do lovely 🥹 Especially with the demons stuff 😂
The way I totally relate to this😮💨
Like, I don't want kids, but what if I later regret the decision down the line?? What if I find out I do want kids and then it's just too late?
What if I have kids, and then realize I don't want kids, and end up hating the child for something that's entirely my fault (I've actually seen this happen) ??
Like idekk
Exactlyyy
Nice work 🥂
i found this all weirdly relatable. i can’t speak from the perspective of a woman who has to deal with it but my thought processes and even the experiences have been quite similar. used to live by this abandoned lot with this family that lived in a makeshift cabin made with zinc and rotting wood. i looked at them from the upstairs balcony and question everything. the kids on road while we were on the way to school. the philanthropy dreams were strong with this one. i’m a bit more grown now and i kinda despise the fact that we have to defend our decision to not have kids with all sorts of perfectly logical things and the people who want them and maybe shouldn’t have them get to say: “ i want to keep it”. we have logical reasons and get dismissed but somehow it’s better that children are born to suffer instead. idk man that just seems fucked up to me. i think my goal in life is to be a great uncle. the greatest uncle that ever uncled is what’s going on my tombstone and if i ever have a kid(intentionally), i’m adopting one. the marriage one is maybe still up for contention but i’ve never fallen head over heels in love so idk. either ways this was a great read so thanks.
Bro the logical reasons that get dismissed is so real.
shit always has me flabbergasted. then the idiots i’m arguing with take that as them winning the argument🥹
Its the fact people will start using 'Be fruitful and multiply' as a valid argument like that wasn't said at after God flooded the earth
i usually disengage at that point. when religion enters logic leaves the chat. can’t be assed wasting my time
Women are really trying. You just go into these things with absolutely no idea. It's only now people are even speaking up about the bad sides of pregnancy and parenthood.
Me babysitting my sister’s kid and thinking: can I really do this?
because the fact that giving birth is actually just the beginning
Raising the child is where the real war starts
I beat her then one year old once and then I cried.
How does that even work?
Why am I crying because he started crying when I beat him?
I still don’t think I’m mentally prepared to birth or a raise a child.
What if I kill the child by mistake?
So many things mehn so many things…
So many things fr
And I'm not patient nor mentally stable enough yet for the task that is raising a child
and that’s okay
Make dem no dey vilify us
I can relate to everything here ….
A lil too much 🤦♀️
Like bro, why is the only reason I want kids,"just in case, so I don't regret it later"?
😂Absurd
Really….